Attraction: The 3 Levels of Awakening

1. Doing
2. Being
3. Allowing

As an up-front summary: this is a form of release. Allowing all the good to come to you. The way of the Natural.

At first, I thought attraction was about all action. I had to "do" actions to generate results (attraction). I would read blogs, books, and asks others what kind of moves they did that worked best. Over time I felt how meticulous and suffocating this type of approach was. If I did A and she did B, then I should get C. But if C didn't happen, then I would feel a sense of pressure or lack of achievement. It was a downward cycle (self-created illusion) of disappointment and failure.

Moving on... I decided to drop the whole action equals attraction thing and go for the embodying attraction. The ethereal angle of just BEING an attractive guy. I spent time buying more stylish clothing, working on myself, my job, etc. I truly thought these things were increasing my chances. I also released my attachment to any outcomes. This worked indirectly. I became more aware of what was happening around me. I felt better about myself. I thought this was attracting women to me. But I learned I was moving past another perceived paradox.

Level 3: Allowing

At this point, I realized something. You can't do attraction, you can't be attraction, you can only allow it to flow through your body.

Think about this: the universe has been creating, making love, and evolving for billions of years. This happened before us and will happen after we are gone. Attraction is an infinite well of energy available throughout the universe. It is happening on it's own. Before you were born, the universe already created man and women and their DNA dictates that they will reproduce with each other. We are already born into that mold. The reason someone doesn't get sex is because they cloud their mind with thoughts (which lead to actions) and have resistance in their body. Whether that was passed down to you from your parents, came from painful experiences, or was simply created by you. Attraction was not created by you from a silly move you read on the internet. Women already feel it on their own without you.

You just have to be there and allow that attraction to blossom. Be attentive, aware, and in the moment. Subtle actions of allowing blocked energy to flow to where it needs to be. That's why some guys look like they are doing nothing but they always end up with women beating their doors down to get to them.

The Zen of Being a Man

Your are an empty room and She is the dancer and the music that fills the room.

You are an empty room. You are the observer; the space that allows the energy to fill.

You allow space. Space like an open field for possibilities to exist and to form.

Like an empty room, you are sturdy and unbreaking. The music reverberates off of you and amplifies.

She is the music. Full of energy and light. Beaming in all directions and reflecting off the walls.

She is the dancer, the movement, and the rhythm.

You are the stillness and she is the vibration, wild, moving and free-flowing.

- The Zen of Being a Man is the understanding of the beautiful complimentary nature of the masculine and feminine. The roles that are played and letting these roles play out to their full potential.

Do Looks Really Matter?

The majority of guys wonder this. Does how you look affect whether a girl will like you?

It's not a simple answer. Just to preface this, the way women think is usually more complex on this topic. For men it is usually an on-or-off switch.

Think of it this way:

Both men and women have a tipping point (think of it as a balance with negatives and positives on opposing sides).

When a man looks at a woman, her physical attractiveness will usually tip the scale over the majority of the time without any other factors, such as how interesting she is, her income level, her social abilities, etc.

For women, a man's looks don't really tip the scale so much. Women take into account many more factors than men do. They look at all the things they are wanting from the relationship: protection, social skills, financial, looks, attitude, approval of other women. 

The main answer is that looks don't weigh as much on the scale as they do for men when it comes to choosing a partner. 

Looks are vague anyway. One woman may feel uncomfortable having a man that is very attractive, while another woman might really enjoy having a man that is classically attractive. 

Overall, you should care about your appearance as a man. You should dress with style, groom yourself properly, and just take pride in who you are. It is always a plus to women.

Looks matter to a lesser degree for men than women. 

The problem is that men are more primitive when it comes to attraction. We only mainly see physical appearance. While women are more advanced in their attraction mechanism.

In order to really understand women, you have to see from their viewpoint. If you think women judge men mainly on physical hottness, then you are seeing it through the eyes of a male. Look through the eyes of a woman, and it makes a lot more sense.

Interaction With Women is More Serious Than You Think

Whenever you engage with a woman in any kind of way, you are sending a message out.

Women have many needs. Man provides the solution to all the needs. When you present yourself to a woman, she is measuring you against all her needs.

It can be compared to someone being interviewed for a job. The job requires many different aspects that need to be filled. They can be multi-tasking, project management, certain certifications, certain skills, proven track record, recognition from your peers, recommendations.

Women see it in a similar way. They see how people interact with you (your social), they probe to see what skills you have, they envision how it would be like to have you in their day-to-day lives, they look to other women to see what type of track record you have. They also will select you more easily if they see others trying to get you (just like it is easier to get a job when you already have one or other companies want you).

Even then, if you are hired, you need to perform everything that is required for the job and do it at a high level. Just because a company hired you, doesn't mean it's time to rest. They felt you were a good fit and now they want you to perform. Same thing goes with women. And women will fire you as well if you are not performing. They will also hire someone else to complete the requirements of the job.

If you are a top performer, you will get a raise. Same with women, they will reward you if you are a great significant other.

The main point here is that flirting and interacting with women in (man-to-woman) communication is very serious. It is not a game or a thing you can just do and then forget about. You can hurt them seriously if you even give a small signal that indicates attraction and then you don't follow through with it.

The touch of a hand, a smile, eye contact. They are all very serious communication in the eyes of women. Never give off confusing signals. That is the natural's commitment to women. Or at the very least, be up front with her about your intentions before moving forward with anything.

The Language Between Women and Men is not Pickup

There is another language that exists. It's the hidden language of woman to man.

Pickup and techniques are not the language. They are another language that cannot effectively communicate to woman.

The language of woman with man is subtle. It is a feeling, subtle eye movements and innuendos. It's an awareness of your environment and intricate movements and situations that present themselves and are unraveled by the women in your direct point of vision.

It is unspoken. It is who you are as a man and what she wants as a woman.

Pickup is unnatural and it is unaware of the natural movement of the universe. It is an interpretation of the true that is far from the pure concept. It forces the situation and the environment to get the situation to it's liking. It causes regret and generates resistance.

Dedicate your pursuit of women to the art of the natural. It is the only real way.

How to Become an Expert

I have become an expert or at least very high-level at different things in my life.

What I have noticed is that I have followed a similar pattern to get there each time.

So let me ask you this...you found my blog for a reason. You are curious to know more about attracting women or just about this topic in general. Many people that read this material on the internet have the intention of becoming the best seducers possible. That is the dream. But how many guys...and girls ever reach that level? Well, by what I've observed with my own eyes is that about 5% of guys that really really try actually become advanced level. There are other top-level people out there that will give you that same percentage or something close.

I bring that number up only to emphasize a point.

What I have experienced with success is that it has always started the same way for me.

Whatever field I have become excellent in has always started off with me either working for nothing, working at the bottom, or just starting from scratch. For example: when I wanted to become a scientist, I remember knocking on the office door of a very well-known scientist. I asked him to let me join his lab and work for him for free. He told me "no" about 2 times. On my 3rd visit to his office, he finally realized that I would keep returning every few days until he told me yes. He accepted me into his lab and I became a dish-washer (meaning I washed the glass ware for the laboratory). Within a few months I became manager of the lab. I did this by working late into the night every single day and on the weekends. Keep in mind, I was not getting paid for this. He did notice the fire I had and the passion I brought to my work.

Eventually, he began paying me, I went on trips to different states, won awards, and pretty much was given the gold ticket to success in that field.

An important point to emphasize is that I stumbled across an individual with great power and he was also very successful at what he did. This accelerated my success very quickly. Becoming an expert for me has usually started with meeting an expert in that same field first and then learning from them at any cost whether it be time or money.

With seduction, I started off learning from a well-known instructor from a legendary company. I obsessed myself with learning everything I could, I did as many approaches as possible with as many wingmen as possible as well. I got to see it from every angle. I have taught, blogged for a top website in the dating field, been trained by multiple experts, and have created my own material. The amount of hours that I have put into this is probably beyond a few thousand. I was willing to do whatever it took to achieve success.

Here is the structure:

1. Meet an expert in the field
2. Become an apprentice to that expert
3. Sacrifice your time from morning to night to work for that individual
4. Learn as much as possible from that individual
5. Meet as many people in that field as you can
6. Spend time on your own learning as much as possible
7. Continue this process for months or, usually, years
8. Eventually become an expert yourself
9. Develop your own style and ideas
10. Teach others and develop them into experts

As I mentioned earlier, about 5%...only 5 out of 100 people that want come into this field actually become good because it is a process. It requires that you be passionate about the journey/process. You have to love the work and the road that takes you. There is actually no destination. It is a continuous journey. It is a fallacy that there is an actual destination.

It is true that it takes blood, sweat, and tears to become excellent at a particular field of expertise. You will have to spend every waking moment thinking about it, obsess your mind with it. I've read Napoleon Hill's, Think and Grow Rich recently and finally realized that I have followed the same process he outlines in his book. I stumbled upon the process on my own. His book, however, validates the ideas I had in my mind. If you want further reading, take a look at his book.

Just to close. I want you to know that you can be good at this. But it's not going to come knocking on your door. You're going to have to knock on it's door until your hand bleeds. Plain and simple. Success is a choice. Choose it and then go for it.

Her Fantasies Are Your Gateway to Getting Her: The Eyes Hold The Power

Here is a master tip from the master himself. That is me.

One of the most deadly tools you have in your arsenal is eye-contact. 

The eyes are actually more powerful than almost anything you have. They have their own language

and can transfer energy and ideas to another person instantly.

This advanced technique I discovered is something I'll call, "The Fantasy Machine".

Think of yourself as a device, hub, gateway, machine, or object that can enable a woman to achieve her fantasies.

For example, when you buy an item or see something advertised on TV, sometimes you get drawn in and you really want that item. Not exactly for the item itself, but more for what that item can do for you or how it can make you feel. 

To be more specific, think of something like a smartphone. You like the smartphone because of the way it can make you feel and because it enables you to carry out a lot of your desires like connecting with other people, or surfing the internet. It is just a hunk of plastic. If it isn't turned on, it becomes nothing more than a dead weight. What differentiates smart phones from each other? It is the EXPERIENCE that they give you and how they make you FEEL. 

Just like a hammer is not much when it is just lying on the ground. However it can be used to build your dream home. It enables you to create the dream that is in your mind.

I believe this is the same way women view men. If a bunch of men are all standing in a line not doing much or not moving, they are like the hammer. They are useless until they interact with the woman and awaken her desires and dreams.

Another way I can explain it is if two guys, identical twins are with a woman. However one of them is able to awaken the desires and fantasies of the woman and the other doesn't know how to. She will pick the one that can. Even though they are physically identical.

The technique I have come up with is basically conveying to the woman through your eye contact that you are able to awaken her fantasies. She isn't looking for you to be physically perfect. She just wants her own desires to be satisfied. Look into her eyes and convey that message to her. She will instantly understand and share that secret language with you without a word being said. You are now her way of achieving her fantasies and she will chase you. Because she is chasing her fantasies. Very few men do this. So it makes you a rare catch no matter who you are.

It's very simple. Just think of yourself as an object that can enable her fantasies. You do this while making eye contact. It's very subtle and sends the message. Try it.

Exit the Matrix: Enter Success

Think about this:

The cities, and technology around you has all been created by us. Everything started as a thought. Just like a building starts off as and idea, then to a blueprint, then is built.

It's exactly the same thing with your success with women. Everything starts as a thought then manifests into your reality through your actions.

To be successful with women, you must exit the Matrix. The Matrix is the mental construct that you created through your thoughts. Let me phrase it another way, your beliefs, stereotypes, assumptions, interpretations of your past experiences, and your viewpoint on women is the matrix you have created. It isn't real. It's all just your interpretation of reality. Why can guys with supposedly no physical, mental or financial advantages still get hot women?? They have created their own reality where they WILL succeed.

Mindset is everything. In order to succeed, you have to create the right mindset first. The weird-looking guy with all the hot girls has something that other guys don't have. He is actually at an advantage. Not because of his looks, money, or brains. It is because of his mindset.

Another salient point is that learning technique cannot and will not help you if you are operating in the wrong matrix. If you have created a mental prison for yourself of doubt, low self-confidence, and worry, then no technique will help you. It will be like trying to escape prison with a spoon. You'll only end up worn out and discouraged. 

The encouraging fact is that you can create your reality. You can remove your limiting beliefs, change your attitude, and have a bright outlook. Once you have done that, you have escaped the "Matrix" and you are now in control of your reality rather than being a slave to a reality that others have created for you. Or a mental prison that you have created for yourself. 

The starting point is belief. You have to convince yourself that you deserve what you want. I don't care if you believe you deserve 10 Playboy playmates, as long as you believe it, you have the basic foundation to work off of. You only have one life. Why would you want to spend it as a slave when you can be doing whatever you want?

You have dreams of being a pimp player and getting the hottest girls that you can imagine right? What guy doesn't? 

Set yourself free. It may take a day or years. Start taking steps forward and explore your mind. Read as many books, articles, audiobooks, and talk to as many people as it takes to reconstruct your mindset for success. Every man is the same. The only difference is his mindset. 

It's time to open the door and step through. You belong in the realm of success. Tell yourself that because it is true. All it takes is a decision. Will you join me?

Who Are You?

So exactly, what does it mean to be you?

That's a big question to take on, but let's do it.

Fundamentally, knowing who you are is what get's you results with women.

If you were to have two guys side-by-side, one of them more in touch with himself and one far removed from himself, there would be a large difference.

Particularly, a guy who knows himself well, will be dressed in a way that matches his personality and emphasizes his personality. His body language and demeanor would be congruent with himself and he would be able to connect with you on a good level of familiarity. What's more is that you will be able to feel his energy and it would be acceptable to you because he is presenting it in a way that has integrity.

On the other hand, the guy that is not in touch with himself will be quite different. His clothing will seem out of place, and incongruent with the vibe he is giving off. His behavior and demeanor will seem odd and not match what he is trying to portray to you. You will end up feeling awkward or turned off because of too many inconsistencies in the interaction with him. Body language, eye-contact, and tone will not match.

So what exactly is going on here? They are both men and came from DNA that combined when their parents united. They were both born blank slates and had the same entrance into this world.

Here is where the mysterious question lies. Many men have spent years trying to understand why THEY aren't being chased by women. They try to memorize lines, buy dress clothes, cars, get better jobs, impress women, boast about themselves, and anything else they can think of. It ends up making of fool of them.

IF you really want a woman chasing you, you will need to start with only one thing. That is self discovery. Knowing yourself is the starting point and foundation on which you build everything else you will need to be an attractive person.

Whatever that may take. It could be meditation, backing Europe, giving away all your possessions, reading 100 books, or simply writing out your life goals on a daily basis. It's a journey and continuously opens up as you go further. Take the time and you will advance your self-awareness.

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Show Her the Love With These Simple Tips

Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, making your woman feel loved is key. It is the gateway that will open up everything else in your life.

There are many different ways to accomplish this. The following tips are some of the most effective and best ways to make your woman feel loved.

1. Listen to her

Listening to her is a great way to make her feel loved because it shows you care about her point of view. As we all know, women like to feel connected to their man. One of the main ways to do this is through talking.

Even when you are busy or doing something else, make sure to make eye contact and give cues that you are processing what she is saying. Even if you aren’t listening, just giving the impression you are works as well.

Make sure to remain nonjudgmental and try not to interrupt too much.

As Randi Gunther, Ph.D., said in Psychology Today, the whole point is to let her express what she needs to express. She will thank you for being a good listener.

2. Surprise her....continue reading

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3 Surefire Ways to Attract the Woman of Your Dreams

Openness is an essential key in being able to attract someone. It dramatically raises your chances of finding someone compatible with you.

Your brain may be sabotaging your level of openness without you knowing it. However, once you learn a little bit about what ‘s behind this concept, it will make a lot of sense.

1. Be observant.

One main aspect of being open that allows you to attract someone is observation. Observation happens when you let down your walls. If you are closed off, it not only closes you off to others, but it also doesn’t allow you to be observant of others.

When you’re observant of others, it allows you to respond and communicate with them.

You have to clear your mind and allow what the other person is doing to fill that space. Listen to them. Watch their expressions and movements and listen to the subject matter being discussed....continue reading

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Quick Tip to Improve Your Communication Skills With Women

You may wonder...how can I really get through to this girl when I'm talking to her.

Here is a really easy way to penetrate her shield and get into good conversation.

What you want to do is take a deep breath, tell yourself "Stop", and remind yourself that no thoughts are needed for this conversation to go well.

Actually, the energy you bring to the conversation is mainly all the girls will see. She doesn't care how much information you know. She doesn't care if you are a genius. She also doesn't care if you "say" the right things. It doesn't matter.

What matters is how you are feeling inside your own body. You have to make yourself feel comfortable, and love the fact that you are alive at this very moment. 

On the other hand, if you're trapped in "thinking", what people are thinking of you, what you think of others, the etc, etc, etc. Then that really destroys any chance of you making a connection. Throw all of that away. I guarantee it will make your conversation better. Do it once, then message me with what happened. 

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Are You a Cheater? Here’s How to Forgive Yourself

Have you ever wondered how someone truly forgives themselves after cheating?

It’s an interesting question that requires a look into honesty, self-acceptance and desire.

Here’s what you can do to forgive yourself:

1. Realize your desires were OK.

What was wrong was not disclosing it to your partner.

If you decided to pursue someone else, there is nothing wrong with that. The problem comes when your current partner is unaware it is happening.

You may be led to believe wanting someone else is wrong. However, it is completely normal. You should make sure to tell yourself who you are and what you want is good but that you need to work on honesty and disclosure.

2. Accept your desires.

And know you are heading toward a more compatible partner. Though you hit a road bump, you are still on your way to the partner you really desire. ...continue reading

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I Like Her More Than She Likes Me

Have you ever been in a situation where you like a girl more than she likes you?

Let’s break down some of the concepts behind this ghastly situation and what causes it.

You have to take action to get a result.

As an example, let’s say John likes Jennifer. However, John doesn’t really say anything about it and gets nervous at the thought of telling Jennifer.

Every time he sees her or hangs out with her, he remains kind of quiet and just has small talk with her.

Eventually, Jennifer thinks John doesn’t like her and she loses interest in him because she is getting no signs of interest from him.

As in the above example, I have noticed so many guys will like a girl and hold in their feelings or keep a distance from her.

You have to fully put your feelings and yourself across to the girl so she understands what is going on. Otherwise, it’s a mystery to her. ...continue reading

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Finding the Receptive Women at the Bar

It’s a pretty important skill to be able to identify receptive women at a bar.

There have been many times when I have walked into a bar, spotted the most receptive women and ended up making out with them within less than a minute of saying hi to them.

There are two aspects to spotting receptive women in a bar. The first is knowing the signs and the second is having the reference experiences to be able to be more aware of the signs.

Here are the main girls you want to look out for: ...continue reading

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Getting Through the Holidays as a Single Guy

Do you feel lonely as the holidays approach?

It is pretty common for a lot of single guys to wonder if they are going to be alone or have someone during the holidays.

What is interesting is these guys feel like they are all alone out there. However, all of these alone people actually form a large group. Within this group, there is a treasure chest of opportunity.
For every lonely guy out there this holiday season, there is a lonely girl or maybe even two.
Here are some quick tips to snag someone so you can have some romantic and fun times during the holidays.

1. Check in with some girls from the past.

If there are any girls you have even had the slightest friendship or romance with in the past, you should give them a text or call.
Ask them how they are doing and what their plans are for the holidays. You may end up surprised how eager some of these girls will be.
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Should You End It?

There comes a time when you are on the fence about staying with a woman. You can feel your mind teeter-tottering back and forth on the edge of staying or going.

Before you make that decision, consider some of the following aspects of your relationship:

1. Are you both on the same page?

You want to gauge what levels you are both at. For example, you may want to have fun downtown with the guys and flirt with women at bars, while your woman may want to spend more time alone with you or have more commitment. 

On the other hand, let’s say both of you want commitment or both of you want to just have more freedom. Either way, you want to figure out where continue reading...

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Attract Someone Else By Being Yourself

So what does the Self have to do with attraction?

When you want to attract someone, you have to first investigate yourself before going out and trying to engage someone else.

For example, if a salesman showed up to your door and he was unsure of himself or the product he was offering, would you buy his product?

Many times, we forget that we have to know who we are and what we have to offer before trying to offer it to someone else. There are many ways of getting more in touch with ourselves such as meditation, exercise, goal-setting, planning, socializing, etc.

To take it a step further, continue reading...