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Thursday, August 29, 2013

Podcast with Myself and Steve "El Topo" Mayeda on Mentality and Inner Game Concepts

Hey Guys,

I recently recorded a podcast with El Topo. I am the guest speaker and talk about mentality in regards to pickup. Check it out and let me know what you think. You can check it out with the link below.

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El Topo

Much Love,

Blue_Haze (Robert R.)

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Pickup Can Hurt You. Free Your Inner Self Rather Than Over-thinking.

A question I want to pose to you is: Is pickup hurting your chances at getting a woman or is it helping you?

It is vital to find a structure for studying and to only read the material you need. It is also key that you play to your strengths rather than to your weaknesses. Eliminate any PUA material that clutters your mind or makes you nervous infield. Meeting women should be stress-free and fun.

Be yourself, be honest, be expressive. You are the man.

Any time you are doing pick-up ask yourself if you are hurting your chances by using pickup or if you are improving your chances. Many times, people find their new girlfriend/boyfriend when they aren't even trying.

Be attractive. You are born for it.

Much Love,


Saturday, August 24, 2013

Paradigm Shifts and Reverting Back To Simplicity

Hi Guys,

It's been a short time since I have posted. The reason is because I have been going through massive paradigm shifts and have been truly starting to understand a lot of things that I didn't clearly see when I joined the community.

There are really a lot of blind spots and pitfalls that guys encounter when joining the community. What happens is that most guys get stuck and actually never see these pitfalls and blind spots, so they end up failing. According to Sinn, approximately something like 95% of guys in the community end up failing. Yes, this is a sobering statistic but you can be in the successful 5%. Even though this may be true, you can still become successful. However, you have to approach pickup from a very special prospective. This includes, not being afraid to be yourself, facing your fears, having other people critique you and give you an outside viewpoint, reading all kinds of material, picking up women with many different wing men, meeting gurus, etc. I have done all of these things.

What eventually startled me is that I realized that simplicity is really the key. All of these experiences only showed me what I shouldn't be doing. And it eventually pointed me back to simplicity in the end.

First of all, I have to tell you that there are rabbit holes that you don't want to go down. These would be going out to bars every week hunting for women. This is really an illusion. I, myself did it for very very long periods of time and have seen many other guys do the same. It is really an infinite loop of chasing a carrot on a stick. Unless you are taking girls home the same night, there really is no other purpose to go out hunting for women at bars. And taking women home on the same night eventually will get old. That, in itself, is nothing but an ego boosting exercise that will boost you only for an amount of time.

So why do men go to bars constantly to do pickup? It's because Mystery pioneered the idea and it became the norm to do so. In reality, you can meet women in many other ways that are much more efficient and fulfilling.

Apart from all of this shit, I have honestly found that simply being a normal average guy with at least normal attributes will get you what you need. All you have to do is have an honest and normal exchange with a women and she will like you. Sad to say, I used to use a bunch of pickup knowledge and thought it was helping me. However, it nearly destroyed all of my interactions with women. False time constraints, not being needy, hiding my intentions. All of this shit destroyed my interactions. Nowadays, I just express myself normally and I get laid. Simple as that.

We have to come back to the idea of marketing and swimming in a sea of pickup material on the internet. Even living in a pickup city like Austin, I saw stuff live and in person that was not exactly what I needed to know. You have to be willing to accept that there is only limited pickup info that pertains to you in particular and that you have to play to your strengths rather than try to completely reinvent yourself that you have developed throughout your lifetime.

Pickup is a fantasy world that really strokes guys egos (mental masturbation). You can achieve some of the experiences that pickup gurus have. I, myself, became good at same night lays. It does give you a high. But, in the end, when you are standing in front of one beautiful woman that you trust and have a relationship with, you are able to express in the truest form of yourself. You must be willing to have pure honesty and connect with a woman on a one-to-one basis that celebrates the man and woman connection. This is the celebration of masculinity and femininity combining as one in the ying and yang. Being fake and lying to women to get sex or to boost the ego is truly a mockery of a man's inner self.

Be willing to celebrate who you are and express it to the world. Do not mask who you are by using pickup. Do not fake who you are. Do not think techniques can cover up your flaws. You flaws will shine through truer than you can imagine. Work on loving yourself and not being afraid to show the world that you are an imperfect being. Women will love you for that.

So here you are, the celebration of the self, the natural game guy that is a normal human being. We aren't pickup clowns or magicians. We are men and that is all we are. We were born to reproduce and we should embrace that we are naturally attractive at our cores. EXPRESS yourself to women. EXPRESS yourself through your clothing, job, car, body language, choice of friends, the way your conduct yourself and your cleanliness. Women want a real man, not a man with a mask that hides from the world.

Hiding behind a pickup mask is a pure expression of insecurity. Women already know this and it cannot be hidden. When you put your personality on the line and have no fear whether someone will smash it or not, you become attractive.

See the truth and get success. Only few make it in the community. I want you to be one of the few that sees the truth.

Much love,