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Sunday, December 23, 2012

When to Text or Call?

Whats up?

I just went out and had a really good night last night. What is interesting is that I have been escalating much faster lately and have been getting some good results from it.

What I found is that I just have to have some finesse while doing it and also have fun.

So the main point here is that there is no real time frame of when to text or call a girl. Getting a number, texting, and calling are all just necessary modes of communication that convey your main MESSAGE and INTENT that you are trying to get across. If you think about them as actual things, then you are in the wrong frame of thinking.

Phone, facebook, mail, or whatever. It is all just a means of getting a message to someone else. So if your message requires you sending a text or call to a girl within 5 minutes of getting her number then that is okay. Forget all the "rules" made up by some pua guy. There are no rules or exact times to wait before texting. Just get your message and know what you want.

Talk to you Guys soon,

BlueHaze

Friday, December 21, 2012

Be Yourself?

Exposing your personality to women turns them on just like  them exposing their bodies turns men on.  

Friday, December 7, 2012

Intent of an Approach Interaction

I've really been working on my approaching skills lately and realized something important.

Intent.

(check my post from May 1st for the meaning of intent)

I have talked a little bit about intent in my previous posts but it was intent regarding your overall purpose. For example, your intent may be to get laid. So you go out with that intent and have that as your driving force while you are approaching women.

But I realized a distinction. If you use just that form of intent, it will be difficult to get from meet to sex. I realized that there must be an 'intent' solely for the approach and the interaction before getting the phone number.

For example, my approach intent could be that I want to have fun and have an interesting conversation while also screening for other things like sexual openness and open-mindedness. This is my approach intent. While my comfort/seduction phase intent is to get laid.

I was seeing it all as one intent however, it is divided up into two stages. Intent of approach and intent of comfort/seduction.

I want to elaborate more on this idea soon. If you have any questions, just drop me a message.

Thanks,

BlueHaze

Sunday, December 2, 2012

My Top 5 PUA's

1. El Topo
2. Jason Savage
3. Terrence C
4. Tyler W
5. Nick Rogue

Notable Mention: Captain Jack

1. El Topo is number one on my list since he was my mentor when I started in the community. His comfort and seduction game are unstoppable and pretty much lethal. Rapid escalation and identity are the two main things I learned from him. He also promotes self-exploration and being yourself. I truly believe that he gave me the best starting point to build on.

2. Jason Savage is definitely a philosopher of seduction and knows exactly how to word concepts so that they penetrate your mind. He only has a blog and 2 videos that I have been able to find on the internet but they had such an impact on me that my game was shaped by his material. Basically, I have learned more about the core philosophy of seduction by reading his material.

3. Terrence C is a personal friend of mine and he truly knows how to discuss seduction in a way that changes your mindset. He breaks down ideas clearly and allows you to understand them and prevent you from going through the headache of having to learn them on your own through trial and error. His style is very normal.

4. Tyler W bases his game on visualization and hypnosis. I've found his method very powerful and effective for preparation before going out. While other guys practice infield, Tyler W visualizes at home and ends up getting much better results than guys that practice infield. The reason is that visualization allows you to get a positive outcome in your mind every time. His method has helped me tremendously in removing the mental roadblocks that I have had.

5. Nick Rogue is all about rapid escalation and I haven't seen anyone else that specializes in that as much as he does. I respect his game because he gets straight to the point and finds all the short cuts to get their. Very cool material that allows you to get a women in bed as fast as possible.

Notable Mention: Captain Jack is a notable mention on my list and would probably be near the top if he actually had any material on the internet. However, I have found almost nothing. The reason I like Captain Jack is because of his idea of Frames. Frames are so powerful and he definitely will be one of my top PUAs due to this. He is also know for Same Night Lays. Very powerful stuff.

So that is my list of top PUAs. I hope you enjoyed.

BlueHaze

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

How to Get a Solid Number

So I hear a lot of guys saying that they can get numbers but they don't lead anywhere. Think about it, if you sit with a girl for 30 minutes and talk about politics or the magazine she is reading, you can't expect her to want to go on a date with you. You have to send her the message that you are interested in her sexually or for a potential relationship and make yourself worth the date. Here is my format for getting a solid number.

1. Frame
2. Qualify
3. Show Intent
4. Close (get contact info)

Another point. If you think of getting a number as an actual thing or an accomplishment, you are in the wrong mindset. A number is only a gateway to further contact with the woman.

Frame - setting the overall situation as a relationship potential or a sexual vibe

Qualify - see if the girl is right for you and if she fits into either a relationship potential or potential sex partner

Show Intent - let the girl know you want to take action on the frame you have set. This is mostly done non-verbally or through innuendo

Close - this is the easiest part. You simply ask for her phone number.


So get out there and get some solid numbers. Hope you guys do well. If you have any questions, feel free to contact me.

Sincerely,

BlueHaze

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Relationship Game

So you've approached and got a number. Then you went on a few dates. Now you are in some type of relationship with the girl....It's not over yet?

Yep. You still have to be on point even when you guys are exclusive. Otherwise, the girl could disappear or toss you around like a bean bag.

What are some things I do while in relationships?

1. Bait to invest
2. Sexual humor
3. Sex
4. Appear to not be too emotionally invested
5. Freeze-out
6. Touching
7. Having a life apart from her
8. And there is more...

It's pretty interesting that many people in the community concentrate so much on approaching. There is so much more beyond that. I believe that, in order to be healthy, you have to be able to court a woman properly and maintain that for long periods of time without losing her. It's a pretty heavy test on the mind because being in a relationship can be mentally and emotionally rough. This is just a brief outline. I would like to discuss more if you guys have any comments.

BlueHaze

Sunday, July 1, 2012

The two paths for online dating

I have had good success with online dating sites. So far I have discovered two distinct paths you can take when interacting with women online.

1. Relationship path
2. Seduction path

I have found my method of getting on the relationship path is by quickly getting rapport with the girl then asking for a number. After that, get a few dates and f-close her within the 3rd/4th date.

The seduction path requires different tools to achieve what you want. This is where you sexually arouse the girl fast and try to get sex as soon as possible. I achieve this by using sexual humor, sexual innuendo and sexual framing. What happens is that the girl gets turned on fast and it results in sex the same day or a girl that is primed for sex soon.

If you have any questions as to a more detailed explanation, just comment below!

Talk to you soon,

BlueHaze

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Sexualizing Your Interactions

Since I started the community, I have learned so many concepts. The one thing that I am still working on is creating a solid routine. However, I have decided to throw classic routines out the window. For now I'm only going to go for heavily sexualized interactions. This will include sexual framing, eye contact, physical escalation, baiting, bait-to-invest, isolation, overt sexual banter with normal mindstate, normal banter with sexualized mindstate, and teasing. I am going to escalate in as many ways as possible. Let's see where this takes me. If you have any comments or suggestions, feel free to post them below

Talk to you soon,

BlueHaze

Monday, June 25, 2012

Dates: Masculinity as the Base for Sexual Escalation

In the past few months, I've gone on more than 20 dates. I've learned a lot about sexual escalation in the process. Touching, eye-contact, teasing, baiting, push-pull, kissing, rapport, sexual tension, texting, etc. I'm going to condense this down to simple concepts:

1. Make her feel comfortable
2. Be masculine
3. Rapport
4. Show her you are a sexual being
5. Follow through physically

There are more intricacies to this representation that I am presenting but this is a general idea of what I do on dates. At this moment, I'm going to focus on what it is to be masculine. I did a short study on masculinity / femininity and learned something very important. This is a good quote that can explain the main idea:

"The female energy is the energy of Home. It is the energy of the Primal Source, the flowing Light, pure Being. It is the energy that has not yet manifested, the inner aspect of things. The female energy is all encompassing and oceanic; it does not differentiate or individualize.

Now, imagine the energy of the female becoming aware of a certain movement inside of her, a slight restlessness, a desire for… reaching out, outside of her boundaries, moving outside of herself to attain experience. There is a longing for something new, for adventure! And then an energy comes to her that answers that longing. It is the male energy that wants to be of service and help her manifest in matter, in form. The male energy defines and shapes the female energy and by their cooperation the total sum of energies can take a completely new direction. A new reality can be created in which everything can be explored and experienced, in ever changing forms of manifestation."

- Pamela Kribbe

 This quote basically means that you, as the man, are the shaper and director of the feminine energy. Too many times on a date, the male provides the feminine energy of anticipation, anxiousness, and indecision. This leaves the woman to provide the masculine energy. I don't believe a woman is going to feel turned on or sexy if she has to provide the masculine energy in the interaction.

On dates, you have to be the man. That means choose the venue and bounce her to different venues when you decide.However, I have noticed that you don't have to pay for the dates or even spend money at all. That is apart from the masculine energy in my opinion.

Be MASCULINE throughout the entire date and any interactions you have with the woman.

Along with masculinity, you have to get sexual at the same time. I will leave that for another post.

Thanks for reading and we will talk again soon.

BlueHaze

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Want to know how to study PU material?

Studying pua and seduction material can be a challenge at first. When I first started doing this stuff, I was overloaded with all the information out there. There are tons of ebooks, articles, blogs, etc. etc. First of all, you need to come up with your goals, intentions, and purpose of why you are doing this in the first place. Once you have that down, then you need to come up with a basic structure of opening to closing.

The way I study is very focused. It consists of working on only one specific aspect of my particular game that I want to learn that day (and night). I spend a few hours during the day reading material on the topic (for example, eye contact). The material can come from any source and does not necessarily have to be pua material. It could be videos, articles, etc. I then do some drills like standing in front of the mirror and refining what I am working on. Afterwards, I go to my computer and write a few paragraphs on what I just studied. I will then go out that night and only focus on that topic. For example, I will spend an entire night infield working on eye contact. I may do some other stuff but I will keep my goal at the forefront.

With some topics or techniques I may spend multiple nights working on them, but it usually takes one solid night (4-5 hrs) to get a good feel for it.

After I really learn the technique or topic, I will eventually teach it to others infield and write on the blog about it.

Having a solid study and infield regimen is important to learning game. Be careful not to get absorbed into long ebooks or jump around to different topics too much. Focus is key.

Talk to you Guys soon,

BlueHaze

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Reading vs. In-field?

Let your in-field direct your reading. Go out and interact with women, get feedback from yourself and others, then read material that will advance you in the areas you need work on. Many guys, it seems to me, will spend hours at home reading and not do much in-field. Where is this reading guiding them to? Just imaginary situations. Read only what will augment your real-life in-field game. Because, anyway, in-field is where you are going to get actual results with women.

Monday, May 28, 2012

How to get good fast

Lately, I have come to the idea that, to get good at game, there is no skeleton key. You may read all kinds of information and advertisements on the internet that tell you how fast you can get good. However, everyone has their own very different journey. My journey has taken many hard nights out in-field, during the daytime, and online. I have done many hours or reading and have worked with different people in the community. There is also a big aspect of chance factored in. If I wouldn't have met many of the people I have, it would take much longer to even be aware of many things I need to work on. So, to sum it up, you need to put your heart and soul into this. Go completely crazy with it and you will get results somehow. It takes BALLS. Go for it!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Initial Rough Draft of Zen Projection

Hey guys,

Here is a very rough initial draft of what Zen Projection is. It is more of a starting point than anything else. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

This is a mental preparation and list of things you should tell yourself and internalize before you go out to do approaches. It gives you the proper mindset to succeed and not get blown out. However, this is an incomplete work and I will add the rest soon.


Zen Projection
‎"It is not your action that creates what you want, but your intent. Your actions only serve to bring your intent into manifestation. You can’t manifest what you did not create and actions create nothing. Action without intent will be counterproductive and will only serve to destroy. When you create what you want with thought, you will only need one tenth of the effort to achieve your desire."
- mindreality.com

Zen Projection is the art of projecting your intent into a woman’s deepest primal mind.

I believe I can get any woman I want and that they will love me.

I am responsible for my own emotional state.

I am a masculine energy and my masculine energy will invoke feminine energy in women. Feminine energy is associated with sexiness. Women will feel sexy when I express my natural masculinity and it will create a positive feedback loop, making us escalate towards the bedroom.

Power > Force
Power requires no justification, it still like a field, requires nothing from the outside and has no needs, energizes, supplies, and supports, compassionate and makes us feel good about ourselves, is characterized by humility, is unassuming, needs no defense and is self-evident, and it makes you go strong.

Appreciation>Desire
Appreciation comes from a state of abundance. Seduction is concerned with self-esteem: Recognizing deservedness, worthiness, and integrity. Appreciating pleasure, sensation, and creativity. There is no concern with "how to get" such things because they are recognized as already there, automatic, and in the moment(because the belief is that one already possesses power).
- credit: Jason Savage

Your purpose is to provide seduction. Not to take it.

Monday, May 7, 2012

Use masculinity to illicit femininity

This topic is an idea that came on in my mind like a light switch after reading tons of articles and other information on intent, congruence, and purpose. So that idea is that men use their masculinity to bring out femininity in women. Femininity is synonymous with sexuality in women. Women always say they want to feel sexy and "feminine". So I believe that these two feelings go hand-in-hand for women. So when you exert your masculinity on a woman, it lets her exude her femininity and makes her feel sexy. This creates a loop that makes her more open to your masculinity. Subsequently, you begin to escalate on her. Eventually, you both end up in the bedroom. 

So what does this mean? Find out the traits of a masculine man and display them. This is what will make women want to have sex with you.

Developing your own routines


I have been learning concepts, and techniques for the past few months and now I am interested in developing my own routines so that I have a good flow and direction in what I am doing when I go out. So far, what I have is this:



1.       Meditation on Zen Projection mindset
2.       Strong eye contact
3.       Approach from side while touching inner arm
4.       Opener
5.       Tease directed towards femininity
6.       Bait. You know who you remind me of…no I can’t tell you…
7.       Isolate (can still be within group)
8.       Tease ( her ability to attract a guy)
9.       Rapport cycle
10.   Cold read
11.   Escalate (throughout process)
               

Friday, May 4, 2012

Zen Projection


I’m developing my idea of the zen approach. The term “approach” is bullshit though because it is a word that has been used as barrier and has negative connotation. I am going to call this the zen projection. After some study and training for a few months, I realized something important. First of all, women naturally check men for congruence. When you are not congruent, you are actually very vulnerable to being shut down by women. However, when you are very congruent, your chances in continuing your interaction with a woman is much higher. I believe this is a natural mechanism that they are unaware of.

Congruence? So what the fuck is that? In order to even start having congruence, you need to have a purpose and intent. Then you need to clearly and unapologetically project and convey that intent on the woman. Purpose is the base of everything. It is the main reason you are interacting with a woman in the first place. For example, you may feel lonely and want someone in your life to feel complete. You intent is built on top of your purpose. Your intent could be that you want to have sex with many women. So before you even begin to zen project on a woman, you want to have your purpose and intent very clear in your mind and make sure that you are ready to project this onto the woman through direct eye contact. 

Before you do anymore approaches, you MUST have this in mind

Purpose --> Intent --> Congruence --> Plan --> Interaction

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

What is "Intent" and why it is essential

Intent is your clear honest drive that is within your heart. It is the reason you do what you do. For example, when you approach a girl, you have an "intent". That intent could be that you just want to meet her, fuck her, have her as your girlfriend, or anything else.

This is where men have problems. Many are unable to properly display their intent through their actions and body language. Most men actually mask their intent by trying to be "friendly" or pleasing to the woman instead of doing what they intended to do before they approached.

How do you get in touch with your inner intent and bring it forward into your interactions? This is somewhat abstract. You just have to keep in mind what YOU WANT. In my case, I want to seduce women rather than find an LTR. So this involves isolation, escalation, and sex. I am clear with my motives and am congruent with what I want. Therefore, when I approach a woman, I will convey all of these things to her without apology. I will look directly in her eyes and channel all of my energy of my intent towards her. I will not try to please her or be her friend at all. I have my motives set solid and will shoot them forward like a concentrated laser beam.
Also, importantly, I have no desire to keep the woman there and no fear of loss. I am coming from the abundance mentality. I am the seducer and I have the desire for that, whether it happens or not is not my concern.

I'll continue this concept a little bit later. Thanks for reading.

Blue Haze

Choose your path of seduction

I was reading a post by Jason Savage. He talks about polarizing your game. What this means is that you must choose to either go out looking for "the one" or you must only go out looking for "fun". He mentions that most puas are straddling the fence and trying to do both. However, this creates confusion and lack of congruence.

After reading his post, I decided that I am going on the second path. That is the path of meeting lot of women and seducing them with no intention of long-term commitment. What is great about polarizing my game is that I will be congruent with my intent and will be able to focus my efforts directly into what I want to do rather than having them scattered. I suggest that every pua take this approach. It is much more honest to all parties involved and seems to be a more effective and efficient path to success.

Blue Haze

She doesn't need to lead

So. I met a girl and got her phone number. I texted and called her. Interesting thing is that in the past month, I only remember one text from her that was initiated by her. Other than that, I have called, texted, and set up all of our dates. She never initiates contact. However, she responds to all of my initiatives and always cooperates with me. I have been on 3 dates with her and we are going on our fourth.

What have I learned from this? I have learned that I can be the leader and not be afraid. I have always been afraid of leading women for fear of rejection. However, leading does so many good things for your interaction with women. It essentially screens them for interest in you, gives you YOUR way, and a lot more. More than that, it SEDUCES women. Women want to be swept away and to submit to your masculine power. Don't be afraid to lead and show your INTENT. Be direct and go for what you want. Never doubt yourself.

Blue Haze

Seduction

So I've been studying seduction with my mentor El Topo. I have come across a very catalytic change that started a few months ago and have been on a direct path of self-discovery since then. I will call it the discovery of being a MAN. This process is happening through interaction with women. For some reason, my interaction with women is what is uncovering my inner power of seduction. I have also started reading material from Jason Savage. The main idea I have focused on today is that of "polarization of game". Either you are looking for a LTR or present gratification in the form of sex. You can't straddle the fence with this, otherwise you will be incongruent and dissipate your power. That's all for now. If you have any comments or anything else, just contact me.

Blue Haze