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Friday, December 25, 2015

Attraction: The 3 Levels of Awakening

1. Doing
2. Being
3. Allowing

As an up-front summary: this is a form of release. Allowing all the good to come to you. The way of the Natural.

At first, I thought attraction was about all action. I had to "do" actions to generate results (attraction). I would read blogs, books, and asks others what kind of moves they did that worked best. Over time I felt how meticulous and suffocating this type of approach was. If I did A and she did B, then I should get C. But if C didn't happen, then I would feel a sense of pressure or lack of achievement. It was a downward cycle (self-created illusion) of disappointment and failure.

Moving on... I decided to drop the whole action equals attraction thing and go for the embodying attraction. The ethereal angle of just BEING an attractive guy. I spent time buying more stylish clothing, working on myself, my job, etc. I truly thought these things were increasing my chances. I also released my attachment to any outcomes. This worked indirectly. I became more aware of what was happening around me. I felt better about myself. I thought this was attracting women to me. But I learned I was moving past another perceived paradox.

Level 3: Allowing

At this point, I realized something. You can't do attraction, you can't be attraction, you can only allow it to flow through your body.

Think about this: the universe has been creating, making love, and evolving for billions of years. This happened before us and will happen after we are gone. Attraction is an infinite well of energy available throughout the universe. It is happening on it's own. Before you were born, the universe already created man and women and their DNA dictates that they will reproduce with each other. We are already born into that mold. The reason someone doesn't get sex is because they cloud their mind with thoughts (which lead to actions) and have resistance in their body. Whether that was passed down to you from your parents, came from painful experiences, or was simply created by you. Attraction was not created by you from a silly move you read on the internet. Women already feel it on their own without you.

You just have to be there and allow that attraction to blossom. Be attentive, aware, and in the moment. Subtle actions of allowing blocked energy to flow to where it needs to be. That's why some guys look like they are doing nothing but they always end up with women beating their doors down to get to them.

Thursday, September 10, 2015

The Zen of Being a Man

Your are an empty room and She is the dancer and the music that fills the room.

You are an empty room. You are the observer; the space that allows the energy to fill.

You allow space. Space like an open field for possibilities to exist and to form.

Like an empty room, you are sturdy and unbreaking. The music reverberates off of you and amplifies.

She is the music. Full of energy and light. Beaming in all directions and reflecting off the walls.

She is the dancer, the movement, and the rhythm.

You are the stillness and she is the vibration, wild, moving and free-flowing.

- The Zen of Being a Man is the understanding of the beautiful complimentary nature of the masculine and feminine. The roles that are played and letting these roles play out to their full potential.

Sunday, July 19, 2015

Do Looks Really Matter?

The majority of guys wonder this. Does how you look affect whether a girl will like you?

It's not a simple answer. Just to preface this, the way women think is usually more complex on this topic. For men it is usually an on-or-off switch.

Think of it this way:

Both men and women have a tipping point (think of it as a balance with negatives and positives on opposing sides).

When a man looks at a woman, her physical attractiveness will usually tip the scale over the majority of the time without any other factors, such as how interesting she is, her income level, her social abilities, etc.

For women, a man's looks don't really tip the scale so much. Women take into account many more factors than men do. They look at all the things they are wanting from the relationship: protection, social skills, financial, looks, attitude, approval of other women. 

The main answer is that looks don't weigh as much on the scale as they do for men when it comes to choosing a partner. 

Looks are vague anyway. One woman may feel uncomfortable having a man that is very attractive, while another woman might really enjoy having a man that is classically attractive. 

Overall, you should care about your appearance as a man. You should dress with style, groom yourself properly, and just take pride in who you are. It is always a plus to women.

Looks matter to a lesser degree for men than women. 

The problem is that men are more primitive when it comes to attraction. We only mainly see physical appearance. While women are more advanced in their attraction mechanism.

In order to really understand women, you have to see from their viewpoint. If you think women judge men mainly on physical hottness, then you are seeing it through the eyes of a male. Look through the eyes of a woman, and it makes a lot more sense.

Saturday, July 18, 2015

Interaction With Women is More Serious Than You Think

Whenever you engage with a woman in any kind of way, you are sending a message out.

Women have many needs. Man provides the solution to all the needs. When you present yourself to a woman, she is measuring you against all her needs.

It can be compared to someone being interviewed for a job. The job requires many different aspects that need to be filled. They can be multi-tasking, project management, certain certifications, certain skills, proven track record, recognition from your peers, recommendations.

Women see it in a similar way. They see how people interact with you (your social), they probe to see what skills you have, they envision how it would be like to have you in their day-to-day lives, they look to other women to see what type of track record you have. They also will select you more easily if they see others trying to get you (just like it is easier to get a job when you already have one or other companies want you).

Even then, if you are hired, you need to perform everything that is required for the job and do it at a high level. Just because a company hired you, doesn't mean it's time to rest. They felt you were a good fit and now they want you to perform. Same thing goes with women. And women will fire you as well if you are not performing. They will also hire someone else to complete the requirements of the job.

If you are a top performer, you will get a raise. Same with women, they will reward you if you are a great significant other.

The main point here is that flirting and interacting with women in (man-to-woman) communication is very serious. It is not a game or a thing you can just do and then forget about. You can hurt them seriously if you even give a small signal that indicates attraction and then you don't follow through with it.

The touch of a hand, a smile, eye contact. They are all very serious communication in the eyes of women. Never give off confusing signals. That is the natural's commitment to women. Or at the very least, be up front with her about your intentions before moving forward with anything.

Thursday, July 16, 2015

The Language Between Women and Men is not Pickup

There is another language that exists. It's the hidden language of woman to man.

Pickup and techniques are not the language. They are another language that cannot effectively communicate to woman.

The language of woman with man is subtle. It is a feeling, subtle eye movements and innuendos. It's an awareness of your environment and intricate movements and situations that present themselves and are unraveled by the women in your direct point of vision.

It is unspoken. It is who you are as a man and what she wants as a woman.

Pickup is unnatural and it is unaware of the natural movement of the universe. It is an interpretation of the true that is far from the pure concept. It forces the situation and the environment to get the situation to it's liking. It causes regret and generates resistance.

Dedicate your pursuit of women to the art of the natural. It is the only real way.